Mars and Venus Together Forever: Relationship Skills for Lasting Love

Is it really possible to be in love forever?

New York Times bestselling author John Gray will show you how in Mars and Venus Together Forever.

This resource guide contains relationship skills that will help you and your mate sustain a lasting relationship that only grows richer with time. Mars and Venus Together Forever educates the different sexes on:

• What your mother couldn't tell you and your father didn't know
• What women need most and men really want
• How men and women think and feel differently
• The language barrier -- men speak "male" and women speak "female"
• The seven secrets of lasting passion
• And much more

Filled with lively anecdotes, revealing exercises, and profound common sense, Mars and Venus Together Forever will help men and women explore new frontiers in their relationships, communicate effectively with each other, and discover the secret of "happily ever after."

The other side of the story, I now know what my needs are. She can focus on the three or four key needs I have so she can use her energies most effectively. For example when I have a problem, I need time to work it out in my mind. I need my time alone to do that. In the past, my wife would want to spend more time with me to talk about it. I didn't know why that irritated me so but it did. Now I understand why after reading John Gray's book. Often we do for our partner what we would want done for us. What is most interesting is, what we want done for us exacerbates the problems when they are done for our partner as in the above example.

Despite what some may say, men and women are different. I have four children, two of each gender. We have tried not to force our boys or girls to play with one toy or an other but the boys both gravitated to cars and the girls to Dolls. We even bought dolls for our oldest boy because he wanted what his older sister had. He later abandoned the doll and went for the trunks and cars. We are different, and how beautiful the difference.

Learn what those differences are so you can develop the love you have rather than work on the problems you are having.


Another sequel without much value-add   August 22, 2001
Sir Bowen (Houston, TX USA)
19 out of 24 found this review helpful

I'm a big fan of the original Mars/Venus book. But the follow-ons, including this one, really add very little to the discussion. This one could be somewhat helpful as a further discussion of the ideas, but don't expect any new insights.


Very insightful   June 4, 2005
L. Margaret
16 out of 16 found this review helpful

In response to other reviewers, yes, this book does rely heavily on stereotypes of male and female behavior. If you find you don't fit the stereotypes (and of course not everyone does!), then you'll need to look for another book. But for many (most?) of us, the insights and advice in this book will be very helpful. As I read, I was constantly amazed by how much I could see myself and my husband in John Gray's descriptions. Last night I had my first opportunity to try out his techniques on how to prepare a man to listen...and it worked beautifully! A situation that would certainly have escalated into a hurtful argument was diffused into a calm, brief conversation that left both of us feeling warm and loving toward each other.


Grrr!   November 1, 2004
Zosie (England)
13 out of 31 found this review helpful

Mars and Venus Together Forever is one of the most ridiculous, stupid books that I have ever had the gross misfortune to read. I probably should have expected what I got, considering that Mars and Venus on a Date left me cold, but I read this one anyway because the original Mars and Venus book had SOME interesting insights and I'm a sucker for a cheap book.

Anyone who buys into the stereotypes promoted by John Gray must be barmy. He exaggerates, overemphasises and blusters his way through the 200+ pages - probably with the best motives in his mind - but in the end the stuff he writes is uninspiring and insipid. According to him men and women are still ruled by `ancient' traditions which dictate that women are all do-gooder types who only desire to stay at home, chatting with other women and looking at flowers whilst men are all aggressive cavemen, grunting their way through their lives with zero finesse, a beer in one hand and the TV remote in the other.

I don't see how anyone, man or woman, could read this book without being annoyed. For women, the book is terribly unempowering. If you don't fit in with any of Gray's ideas about what a woman should be then you are labelled as masculine. I don't want to read a book which tells me that when I am at work I am moving towards my masculine side because being goal-oriented, competitive and efficient are male traits. It's all phooey! For men, the book is also offensive. John Gray says that men shouldn't express their feelings because it will cause a woman to lose her attraction for him. No, I don't believe that men and women are the same in all respects - there are gender differences - but in Mars and Venus these are distorted.

Overall this book is not worth your time. Underneath the waffle there may be some good points, but all of these are outweighed by the stereotypes.

JoAnne